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I Love My Children, I Hate My Life?

I Love My Children, I Hate My Life?

In the recent New York Magazine cover story “I Love My Children. I Hate My Life,” writer Jennifer Senior tackles the tough topic of parental happiness.

She writes that while many parents say raising a child is a privilege that adds meaning to their lives, research shows parents are often more depressed and less happy than nonparents.

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Her article set off a firestorm in online message boards in and blogs, with many critical of those who felt dissatisfaction with raising a child.

“Parenting is a selfless and lifelong vocation, and you must recognize that fact before you commit to becoming a parent,” “judithod” commented on the article on

Others tried to figure out the root of the unhappiness.

The Motherlode’s Lisa Belkin argues it may be connected it to the “helicopter parenting” phenomenon.

“Now that parenting has become a verb — an active, measurable, competitive thing — it brings with it an infinitely expanding job description. We create one for ourselves, different from our neighbors’, or even our partners’, but always broader than the ones our parents used decades ago. We recognize it as helicoptering when we see others do it, but from the inside it feels like what a good parent does.” she writes. “And it is, in part, what is making us overwhelmed and unhappy.

Stephanie Wilder-Taylor suggested unhappiness could stem from unreasonable expectations. “I think the problem is how you go into parenting with these high expectations. It’s supposed to be fun every minute of the day and it’s such a rude awakening,” she said. “Getting those kids dressed in the morning can sometimes be an extremely tedious experience. Unlike other jobs, you don’t ever really punch out.”

So the question is NMO mommies & daddies, do you agree?

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  1. I have to disagree….I knew full well what I was getting into- then again I am the oldest of 9 kids, so I’m well aware of what goes into raising children. My current source of stress is because of the economy & has NOTHING to do with the baby. The baby is the reason I can wake up & smile every day. I love being a mom!

  2. LindaLu83 says:

    I think the writer has a lot of guts to write an article that deals with such a “touchy” subject. I think a lot of woman feel the same, but are afraid to say anything because they don’t want to be judged, like the writer was.

  3. I’m a single parent and I must say, despite exceeding far more than most do – I find myself disliking parenthood more than most. I feel selfish saying that and I love my daughter but it is constantly a challenge and hard to be happy with a demanding job and responsibilities. I think many moms just aren’t honest with themselves or others due to fear of criticism.

  4. Che paquette says:

    Raising kids is the most boring, dull, tiring experience. Not worth it.


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