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Lisa: Inconsistencies

Lisa: Inconsistencies
When Holly & I started NMO, we knew that the only thing that made us pseudo “experts” is being new moms ourselves & trusting in the fact that the only thing that helped us survive was getting input from other moms! I frequently get questions from other moms having to do with the following situation & thought I would share my input based upon my personal experiences in being Molly’s mommy. Please feel free to share your input by leaving a reply below!
“Hi there.. i am a new mom to a 9-month old baby boy. I need serious help and all possible sorts of suggestions on how my child can sleep through the night! I am very very frustrated as we have tried everything from,early feeding to late feeding.. full bath to a warm sponge bath.. 5 minutes – 10 minutes waiting time before we come in his room.. everything.. and not a thing seems to work.. both my husband and i work.. so you can just imagine the horrors we go through trying to get up in between the middle of the night to pacify my infant. can anyone help me please? it seems that after 2-”wake ups” then he will pull through until the morning.. but this leaves us both husband and i.. clearly lacking sleep and energy to last through the day.. can anyone give us sure-proof, no mess solutions???? thanks very much!!!!!”
This is one of those situations that I can COMPLETELY empathize with because Molly didn’t consistently sleep through the night until she was 12 months old. Here was my response to this tired & desperate mommy:
“Hi! Our daughter has similar sleep problems when she was 8-10 months old…she didn’t sleep through the night consistently until she was 12 months old.
Couple questions for you…
1. Do you nurse or bottle feed?
2. What is the ratio of nursing/bottle feeding to solid foods that he has each day?
3. What time does he go to bed & what time does he wake up?
4. Have you ever tried the Ferber method? (this is the ONLY thing that worked for our daughter)

Here’s why I ask…
Once we stopped bottle feeding she learned to stop waking up in the middle of the night for feedings AND she was fuller longer. A lot of times nursing or bottle feeding just doesn’t cut it anymore. I remember at her 9 month check up our pediatrician said she should start having more solids than formula/breastmilk…this is when the ratio starts to change. We started feeding her solid foods first and then letting her top off w/ a bottle.

With babies sometimes they wake up more if they aren’t getting enough daytime sleep…maybe he needs an earlier bedtime??? Our daughter now sleeps 6:30pm-5:30am. She just plays so hard all day that she needs an earlier bedtime and we have to make sure we stick to her nap time schedule otherwise she wakes up earlier in the morning.

The Ferber method was a life saver for us! I can’t say enough good things about this method, BUT you have to know what will work for your child. When we stopped bottle feeding, we had to use the Ferber method for her nighttime wakings. After about 5-7 days she was sleeping through the night and we haven’t been up with her in the middle of the night since!

Both my husband & I also work full-time so I feel your pain! Keep trying different techniques AND be consistent for at least 7-10 days before ruling out that it doesn’t work. Our daughter is one stubborn cookie so we have to try things for at least a week to see results.

I’ve learned, the hard way, that I have to be consistent with anything I do to help teach Molly lessons, whether that’s weaning from bottles or sleeping training. Only the other day did this fact sink in…
Two weeks ago we were at the grocery store & Molly saw an Elmo Mylar balloon from across the grocery store. We spent maybe 1-2 minutes saying “hi” to Elmo before we proceeded with our shopping trip. Fast forward two weeks later & we’re back at the same grocery store & from across the store Molly starts to yell “Elmo!” at the top of her lungs. She starts dragging me across the store because I have no idea where she sees Elmo. Where do we end up? At the same place she saw the Elmo Mylar balloon two weeks ago, but now there were no more Elmo balloons left. This just demonstrates the memories these little kids hold onto…think about if you were to sleep train for 2 nights, then cave in, then try again, but now it will take 4 days to get back where you were because they remember you came in to get them after 2 nights…what a vicious cycle!
The morale of the story…STAY STRONG! And as my husband reminds me in moments of weakness “you are the adult, she is the child!”


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  1. cjncollins says:

    Sleeping through the night….what is that again. We are still working on this at nearly 17 months. We do now at least have some nights where he will sleep through, but it is so inconsistent – and not based on anything we can figure out!

    I agree though that consistency is key. Right from the beginning we have tried to be consistent, and yet you have to remain flexible. The only constant is change with them. As soon as you think you’ve got it down, be it sleep, food, discipline….. they up and change it all about which means you need to re-think everything.

    But that is what keeps us on our toes and make this whole parenting thing so much fun! (I can say that now but probably wouldn’t have said that at around 7 months old when I was desperate for sleep!).

  2. My son (now 15 months) was sleeping through the night great until his teeth started cutting through his gums (around 6-7 months). Now it’s hit or miss, if he doesn’t have any teeth coming through then he will sleep somewhere between 8-10 hours, but if his teeth are sore he does wake up. His molars are on the move so I have had several nights of being up with him anywhere from 90 minutes to almost 3 hours. I can tell he is tired because he will fall asleep in my arms, but when I put him in his bed he wakes up. He also chews on his fingers and nibbles on my arms gently. It sucks being up in the middle of the night like that but I know he’s not comfortable and is just looking for some relief from the pain.


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