Lisa: Balancing Being a Mom with My “Former” Self
I had the honor of being my best friend’s matron of honor 3 months after my daughter was born. When I was pregnant I thought that this would be plenty of time for me to adjust to motherhood and the perfect timing for me to want to get away for a bachelorette party, bridal showers, etc. Then reality set in around 8 weeks, I was still trying to get the hang of being a mom…ok, let’s be honest, I was still completely lost and living in sweats most days- haha!
I loved celebrating my girlfriend’s wedding but I struggled to strike a balance of knowing how to be my “former” self while I’m still discovering who I am as a mom. I know everyone tells you that it’s important to not get lost in being a parent and to set time aside for yourself, but that is way easier said then done! This little person was apart of you for 9 months and they are still attached to you (sometimes literally!) for another 4-6 months, so it really is a challenge to separate who you are from this little person. Normally I would have joined in on the bachelorette fun into the wee hours of the night (and if I don’t say so myself, some might say I was the life of the party- haha!), but I struggled just to stay awake during wine tasting and went to bed early! My life had definitely changed and so had my priorities.
Now, for those of you who are pregnant or in the first few months of your child’s life, please don’t be alarmed…it does get better! Even though I haven’t mastered the art of balancing who I once was with who I am today (nor do I think I’ll ever be that exact person again), I feel like I’m getting to a place where I can go out with my girlfriends and let loose without feeling like I’m not being a good or responsible mom….I’m just probably going to bed a whole lot earlier (& the word “light weight” comes to mind- haha!)!!!
Someday I hope to have a better balance of being a good mom to my daughter, a good wife to my husband and taking time out to still do things I use to do in my pre-baby days!
Picture: My best friend with our daughter Molly when she was only a week old.