Lisa: Choosing the Right OB
One of my girlfriends is having a baby, so I referred her to my amazing OB. This brought me back to my journey of picking the right OB. When I was 8 weeks pregnant, I started seeing an OB who was recommended by a friend. She had warned me that she was straight to business and did not spend a lot of time building a relationship with her patients. Not knowing what was important to me or how in the world to pick an OB, I decided to go with the recommendation.
My first appointment was pretty straight forward and I could immediately see what my friend was talking about…very informative but there were no touchy feely types of topics brought up. Again, not knowing what was important to me, I proceeded to schedule my next appointment. The next appointment was very similar- listen to the baby’s heartbeat, discuss any questions I might have (as she was already standing up ready to leave the room I might add) and of course the dreaded weight topic. I didn’t love the way she talked about how much weight I was gaining, but I made my next appointment hoping that she was really looking out for my own best interest AND that I would start feeling better so I could exercise more.
Throughout the next month, I worked hard to watch what I ate and started walking 1-2 miles 3-5 times a week. The turning point for me was my 4 month check-up. She went through the routine- baby’s heartbeat, answer my questions (again, she was already half-way out the door) and finally the world crushing comment “we’ll need to start watching your weight now.” For some reason that comment hit me like a ton of bricks. It took everything I had to stop myself from crying until I got to the car. On my way home I called my husband and through the sobs told him “I’m interviewing new OBs starting tomorrow!” That was it for me!
So I did what I should have done in the first place and started researching OBs online (a lot of websites offer reviews from patients) and made several appointments for the following week to interview more OBs.
I ended up officially changing my OB after my 4 month check-up to a woman who is compassionate, but yet very realistic and direct…EXACTLY what I needed! And guess what!? She never mentioned my weight!!! During the birth of my daughter, I remember being one push away from a c-section and she looked straight in my eyes and said “you can do this!”…a few seconds my daughter was born!
Don’t make the same mistake and spend the extra time to find an OB who fits your wants and needs; your OB can make all the difference in the world!
Be on the lookout for an upcoming article about how to interview an OB!