Lisa: Our 1st Oops Report!
On Friday, I called my husband on the way home from work (like normal) and asked how Molly did at school. Instead of the normal response I received, he said “well, we got a new report today.” And I asked him if it was an adjustment to the form we typically get that details everything she did that day, down to each diaper they changed and if it was wet, dirty, etc. He said “no, it’s an Oops Report.” What in the heck is an Oops Report!?
He proceeded to tell me that Molly had tried to walk from one toy to another and fell into a toy before reaching her destination (she’s in that awkward stage where she thinks she can walk on her own, but she really can’t). He read the details of the form to me (he could tell I was panicking inside), such as they had to ice it and give her some T.L.C. But he closed the conversation that it wasn’t that bad and she was fine.
As I rushed the rest of the way home, questions raced through my mind “why didn’t they call me!?”, “did she cry for very long after she got hurt?”, “were the teachers watching her!?”…the list goes on and on.
When I got home, I had my husband assess the situation just to give me peace of mind. Sure enough, it wasn’t just a split lip, but also a cut on her tongue and gums! As I ranted about all the questions that had built up in my mind on the drive home, my husband simply stated “would that have helped?” (i.e. getting a call or the teachers watching her more closely). My husband is a wise man and sometimes I don’t give him enough credit for how he looks at different situations, most of the time it’s because I’m so overly emotional that I don’t hear what he’s saying- haha.
Over the next day or so I thought about what he had asked and I determined that it probably wouldn’t have helped because I would have panicked and probably went to pick her up (when it was probably unnecessary). Her first big fall was bound to happen and we all survived, but somehow I can’t shake the feeling that I wish I had been there to comfort her. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, it’s one of the hardest lessons to learn as a parent- to let go and allow other people to comfort and take care of your child. This not only helps mommy and daddy get some help, but it also increases your child’s self-esteem because they know other people love and care about them!
So needless to say, Molly’s 1st Oops Report was probably more painful on me than it was on her =)!