Lisa: When Reality Hits
My husband and I took ALL the baby education classes at HOAG Hospital (amazing hospital by the way!) and in one of the classes we spent some time reviewing the baby blues- what they are, why they exist, and how to identify you have the baby blues. I actually remember my husband and I talking about this topic on the way home from the class, specifically we wondered how many women get the baby blues and of course we wondered if it would happen to us.
During our hospital stay, and probably a couple days after we came home, I was on an adrenaline rush. I was able to look past the lack of sleep because of all the excitement in the arrival of our little girl! But once the “honeymoon” period ended, I soon found myself immersed in the baby blues. Here are a few things that triggered us to determine that I had the baby blues:
I had thoughts of “what did we get ourselves into!?”
I would cry constantly- this was more than just wacky hormones, I would just cry for no reason or because I was overwhelmed
I loved my daughter, but I would have thoughts of what my life use to be like and wished I could just go back in time to when things seemed easier
I would get anxiety about going out in public with my daughter because of her random “meltdowns”
When I joined my moms group (shout out to New Moms of South Orange County!), I realized that these feelings are completely normal and more women than I ever realized go through this same thing. Through talking with other new moms, I found great tips and advice of how to manage my emotions and just felt comfort knowing that I wasn’t alone.
As a side note, my baby blues did go away on their own when my daughter was around 3-4 months old, but when I stopped breastfeeding, I experienced some of these same emotions (i.e. constant crying, feeling of being overwhelmed, and feeling blue). Who would have thought this is also NORMAL! It’s completely mind boggling how much we go through mentally and physically when having a child. Kudos to all you moms out there!
If you are feeling blue, please make sure you talk to your doctor, other first-time moms (the NMO forum is a great place to post your questions!) and/or another medical professional to give you the opportunity to talk about your feelings! Just remember that you are completely normal AND you are a great mom!!!!