New Mom- Again!
I wasn’t sure if I would consider myself to be a ‘new mom’ with my second because I already have a child- been there, done that, right? Well, that hasn’t exactly been the case. My son is now 8-weeks old: my how the sleep deprived nights fly by… In fact, I tried to start writing this blog over two weeks ago. I knew that having another baby would be life changing but I wasn’t quite expecting to have zero time for myself.
Taking care of a newborn is different the second time around because I feel more confident with what I am doing. There aren’t the uncertainties about changing diapers, getting baby dressed or bathing baby. I do still feel like a new mom though. For one, new moms are tired and I am T-I-R-E-D. I think it’s harder being a new mom the second time around because you can’t just sit on the couch and nap when our baby naps. You have to chase around your toddler or keep her from sticking her fingers in your new baby’s eyes.
Something that is much different (ok, this is obvious) are boy parts! It really is different ‘cleaning’ up a poopy diaper. In some ways it seems easier but then there is the ‘hose’ that can spray you at any time which makes things a bit more difficult. Just when I think I’ve got everything under control there is pee spraying all over everything I have to change clothes (his and mine)!
Also, new moms are emotional and I have plenty of emotion. Once I got passed the emotions of feeling like I’m not giving my toddler enough love and attention I moved on to feeling that I’m not giving my baby enough love and not holding him enough. Now I’m on to the emotional feelings of being trapped by breastfeeding because I can’t leave the baby for more than two hours. And that final emotion is the same one that I felt with my daughter.
I remember feeling nervous going out with my daughter the first few times. I feel the same way now. I break out in a sweat when I take both kids out. I know this will get easier, just as it did with my daughter.
I guess it’s just goes to show that even with your second child you can be a “new mom” again…