Special Guest Blog: Raising Children
Special Guest Blogger: Mommy D
About Mommy D:
I’m not exactly a NEW MOMMY. I have two children. A 3 yr old boy and a 1 yr old girl who both enjoy causing trouble and making me crazy. But I love them and we have great fun together. I am very excited about writing a guest post for New Mommy Oasis. I hope I don’t disappoint!
The Right Way To Raise Your Children
Every new Mother finds out pretty quickly that they are bad Mothers, according to someone else. It may be a family member, a friend, or yes, even a complete stranger at the grocery store. (It does happen, and when it does you can’t even respond because you are in such shock that this person has the nerve to actually say this to you!)
Unsolicited advice is something all mothers deal with. It doesn’t get any less as your kids get older either. (I was hoping it would.) Most of the time it is coming from a place of love. This person genuinely wants and THINKS they are helping you. For those moments all you can do is nod and thank them for caring so much. Sometimes it’s coming from a different place. Yes, they still THINK they are helping, but their advice sound suspiciously like an insult about your parenting skills and choices. For those moments, well, you could do the same and just nod and thank them, but if you prefer you can throw something or maybe trip them as the walk away.
Do you want my advice? Well, I’m going to give it to you anyway. It’s coming from a place of love and I genuinely HOPE I’m helping.
DO NOT listen to this ADVICE that people keep throwing out there. Don’t let ANYONE make you feel inadequate as a mother. Nobody knows your child better then you. You are uniquely connected to your children. You know what they need before they do. Trust yourself and your instincts. Mothers are AMAZINGLY intuitive when it comes to their children. If you believe your are raising your children properly, you are.
Here is a list of things your children NEED to survive and be happy:
A mother who is confident in her ability to take care of her babies.
It is my belief that you are giving your child EVERYTHING they need to be happy and healthy. You don’t need to worry about how this person thinks you are letting them eat to many sweets, or that person thinks you are letting them stay up to late. They don’t realize they are talking to a SUPERMOM. Forgive them and let them think they helped you. Poor things.